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The 5-4-3-2-1 method
A letter from editorial director Lisa Smosarski.

I recently heard manifestation coach and author Roxie Nafousi raving about the 5-4-3-2-1 method. Roxie was celebrating the efficacy of the method as a way of reframing and resetting our brains to allow ourselves to take risks that we are on the precipice of talking ourselves out of, whether that’s at work or in our own self-development. For her, that meant walking onto a stage after counting backwards from five to one when she felt so nervous she thought her legs might not carry her. But for others, that might be starting a task that you’ve been putting off for days or stepping up to challenge a colleague on a decision.

On the face of it, a countdown is nothing new – a method used unconsciously by humans for centuries (probably) as a way of forcing ourselves to do something we don’t want to do. Stood at the top of a diving board and plucking up the courage to jump? 5-4-3-2-1 and leaaaaaaap. Need to message back an ex you don’t want to talk to? Deep breath and 5-4-3… oh, I hit send. Parents use it practically every day to ‘motivate’ their kids into doing a task they don’t want to do. I’ve lost count of the ‘If I get to one and you still haven’t got your shoes on, there’ll be trouble’ conversations I’ve had. And the strange thing is, it works. Jump made. Message sent. Shoes on.

A few days after hearing her talk about this, I found myself staring at a blank Word doc trying to start a project that had been on my to-do list for weeks. I had nothing to lose except more hours of my life, so I gave it a shot: “5-4-3-2-1…” and I started typing. Slowly at first, but before I knew it, I’d broken the seal and had completed the challenging task that had taken me weeks to confront. I used it again a few days later before walking onto a stage to take part in a panel I’d not had a chance to prep for. My heart said no, but my head told me to get on with it, and 5-4-3… and I was on stage and in full flow. Roxie was right, this unbelievably simple act can be all it takes to push yourself out of your comfort zone and to take the psychological risks that, in turn, can really enhance your career. And it really is as easy as 5-4-3-2-1. 


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Give 70%
Digital editor Ellen Scott shares insightful hacks to make work that little bit easier.

The working smarter hack I’m about to recommend might spark an immediate negative reaction. Stick with me. What if this week you didn’t give every bit of work 100% of your effort? What if you – whisper it – took it easy?

There’s a method to my madness here. When I speak to women about their relationship with work, the overwhelming majority are going above and beyond, working flat-out to the point of burnout. They’re overperforming to such a degree that their 100% is the equivalent of someone else’s 150%. I’m fairly confident that for most women, phoning it in just a little will mean they’re giving just the right amount of energy over to their jobs. If your tendency is to overdeliver by a long way, reducing that will barely be noticeable to others.

Now is the perfect time to test out giving 70%. Or if that absolutely terrifies you, try 80%. Even 90% (although I really do urge you to aim for 70%). This week, following the disruption of a bank holiday weekend and to tackle the inevitable dread of returning to work after days off, give yourself permission to try 10% less hard than usual, even if only for one day. On Tuesday, cut 10% of your to-do list. If you always work through your lunch break, take at least 10 minutes of it to go outside. Slow down your pace from a hurried rush to a 70%-effort saunter. Think of this as a chance to do a one-off bare minimum Monday and see what happens.

The likely outcome: the world will not implode, everything will be fine and you’ll feel a lot better for having been just a touch gentler with yourself for one day. I challenge you, post-bank holiday, to do one 70% day. I’ll join you*, and I’d love to hear how you get on.

*My boss will absolutely be reading this. Hi! A heads-up I’m going to be on 70% on Tuesday. My work will still be excellent, and I’ll be back to 100% on Wednesday.


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