There’s so much more to having sex than, well… having sex. If you’re not having it very often, then your focus tends to be on frequency and wondering whether you’re getting down as regularly as other people. Once you get into an enjoyable routine, however, attention can quickly turn to initiation. Who is making sex happen nine times out of 10? Is the non-initiator happy being cajoled into intimacy? Is one party making quips that if it wasn’t for them, both of you would be left high and dry?

Mismatched libidos and sexual desire might feel like an insurmountable problem, but the key – as with most relationship issues – is communication. And it’s for that reason that we’ve put the following question to four sex and relationship therapists: Is there something wrong with my libido if I never initiate sex? Click the button below to find out how they’d approach an initiation drought without causing any relationship dramas.   

Whether it’s relaxing into a soothing title to find calm and connection, or escaping screens before bed at night, we’re swapping scroll time for wellness-enhancing listening this year. 

Stylist’s top picks for audiobooks at the moment? We’re loving A Quiet Life In 7 Steps by Susan Cain (a bestseller on the power of exactly how to tune out the bustle of life and find fulfillment) and Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Long And Happy Life by Héctor Garcia and Francesc Miralles (a transformative dive into how to find your purpose). Listen with a free 30-day trial on Audible*. 

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I tend to wake up around 7–7.30am… and start the day with a short meditation and then either a walk or a run followed by yoga.

My go-to breakfast is constantly changing… but right now, I’m all about starting the day with a hearty, savoury meal. I absolutely love sourdough or homemade bread with spinach, hummus, sometimes eggs and whatever vegetables and spices I have in the cupboard – topped with kimchi.

The biggest wellness lesson I’ve learned recently is… the power of giving myself an hour in the morning to just be. I’ll use that pocket of time to get some natural light before turning on my phone and having a ginger lemon tea with apple cider vinegar.

I wish more women knew that… there isn’t a ‘one size fits all’ approach to nutrition and exercise. We need to understand what foods and exercise work for us individually in order to thrive. This is why I love Ayurveda – it’s a system that involves learning what type of person you are and then recommends foods and exercises tailored to that.

In times of stress, I… go outside for a walk. Nature is key to good mental health. I’ll sometimes ring a friend, but I always try to remove myself from technology when things get too much.

Once work is over, my evening routine starts with… getting outside to enjoy some fresh air. Then, I’ll have a bath and cook a warming dinner with my housemate, followed by a bit of TV, some journaling or reading. I’ll confess that I do sometimes spend the evenings catching up on any work if that’s necessary, but if I’m staying in for the night, then I’m strict about going to bed early.