“My fear of being lazy was causing panic attacks. Here’s how I learned to embrace rest”

The word ‘lazy’ can sting. A luxurious Sunday lie-in factored into your week can easily be dismissed as a lazy morning by those who don’t quite know the extent of your exhaustion. Maybe you should have got up and run a 5k, you might tell yourself. Or perhaps you should be polishing your CV or meal prepping or doing anything other than, well, getting the rest you need.

A year ago, writer Emma Gannon found herself in this exact situation – berating herself as lazy every time she tried to rest. “My fear of being seen as ‘lazy’ led to panic attacks, anxiety and a complete meltdown of my nervous system last year. I desperately needed a break but I didn’t know how to stop,” she writes for Stylist Extra this week. “I knew something big had to change. After a decade of striving (and, like everyone, surviving a pandemic), had I earned my right to rest yet?”

She isn’t alone. According to a 2020 study by the Resolution Foundation, most people in the UK are spending less time on leisure than they did 40 years ago. Instead, we spend our time constantly striving for the next thing and running ourselves down in the process. In the end, Gannon took time out to re-evaluate the way she thought about rest and recovery and realised she’d need to change her whole worldview to allow laziness to be part of her life. While hard at first, it’s a reckoning worth having. 

Hannah Keegan, 
Features Editor, Stylist 

This week I’m…

Listening to: Bad Manors. This podcast takes you inside Britain’s most famous stately homes, castles and estates to tell their lesser-known stories. I just listened to the episode on Oakley Court, the Berkshire country house that’s all over my Instagram feed for its Soho House collaboration. It has a dark, unsettling past that you probably won’t have heard about. Listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts 

Reading: Land Of Milk And Honey by C Pam Zhang. A crop-ruining smog has spread across the world in this brilliant new novel, which came out earlier this week. Our protagonist, a chef, applies to work at a utopian mountaintop facility run by an enigmatic billionaire, where they’re trying to engineer smog-resistant food. It has a lot to say about power and pleasure in the face of a disaster. £16.99, bookshop.org


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What was once considered ‘peasant food’, in many parts of Europe at least, has become 2023’s buzziest ingredient. So why have beans seen such an image shift? Stylist’s Holly Bullock explores their unexpected rise to cult status.

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